Miscarriage and pregnancy loss are very sensitive and often taboo subjects that many people find difficult to talk openly about.
If its happened to you “I’m very sorry for your loss,’” as you maybe overwhelmed by the feeling that life has treated you unfairly – you feel resentful and you can’t understand why this has happened to you. Was it something you did? Ate? You need to talk it over so you turn to your other half first, but you quickly realise he can’t deal with this yet, so you tell members of your immediate family who are full of wise words and clichés: ‘you can try again’; ‘it was meant to be’; ‘nature knows best.’ You know they mean well, but all you want to do is scream at them, ‘you don’t understand, you don’t know how I feel!’
In this fragile state, you’re disappointed when close friends don’t say a word to you about what’s happened. You don’t realise that people often don’t know what to say. They don’t know how to or even whether to acknowledge your loss. Perhaps it’s better to just not mention it? Over time your frustration builds up along with feelings of guilt. But you don’t even know if you are justified in grieving for a baby that doesn’t exist? You’ve become increasingly tearful and emotional. Unexpected things can set you off in floods of tears. One day, in the supermarket, you don’t know how you’ve ended up in the baby aisle, and you have break down. This is the straw that breaks the camel’s back and perhaps its time to seek some TLC and emotional support.
Through experience I have found women who have suffered a miscarriage need to address the emotional pain associated with pregnancy loss. Often the body recovers to a physical state of homeostasis very quickly – but the mind often needs a little more time to readjust. My bespoke session are created to suit how you feel at that given moment. They are nurturing, uplifting even confidence building, and at the time supporting your emotional well being.
Even though miscarriages are very common, it doesn’t make it any easier if it happens to you. The safe space I share will help to put your feelings into perspective and to find yourself again, boost your self esteem whilst allowing confidence and positivity to return.
Here’s some useful links:
- Mother and Baby Magazine – miscarriage support
- Mother and Baby Magazine – trying again
- Blog post – How to Cope with a Miscarriage
- Further support
I hope this offers the comfort you seek and should you wish to chat with me further I offer a complimentary 30 minute consultation, just get in touch.
Naturally supporting you