The road to parenthood can sometimes be laden with despair. Maybe there’s an ongoing battle in your head and your heart about what to do next. Whether you should continue trying to conceive naturally or seek professional advice about further options.
But there’s one thing you know for sure, you’ve reached THAT place. That place which you’ve heard about but never wanted to visit, a place where you’ve exhausted all possibilities, a place where your dreams seemed to have disappeared, a place where you feel low and just despair about what the future holds.
Does this sound familiar? The dictionary quotes it as ‘the complete loss or absence of hope’ and I’m sure you’ve felt this at some point personally and no matter how hard you try, you just can’t shake this feeling and move past it.
Despair can make you feel low particularly in these moments:
• Another month has passed and still no pregnancy
• You want to get pregnant quickly so you can stop driving your partner nuts
• Another person has announced their pregnancy
• Trying for years and still have no answers or change in circumstances so you’re stuck at a crossroads whether to continue or do something different
• You cling on to hope every month but your faith is waning
• Perhaps you’re been trying for a while and don’t have time to be casual about your fertility anymore
Despair can be completely overwhelming leaving you feeling that life is just unfair. So today let’s make a conscious decision to do something different, release these unnecessary feelings and give yourself permission to allow hope and positivity to return.
What can we do about it?
Firstly please know that despair is a normal and natural reaction. Let yourself recognise it and feel it, sit for a moment with your feeling and instead of allowing thoughts of despair to spiral out of control, just ask yourself ‘Why am I feeling this way?’ Write down all your feelings, be honest with yourself, and list every thought, feeling and situation.
This is a very cathartic exercise, try it, I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comment section below and in our secret Facebook group.
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