When everyone else is pregnant but you it can cause you to grieve, If you were rejoicing over a positive pregnancy test just weeks or months ago, coping with a sudden and unexpected miscarriage can be so difficult, losing a family member or close friend, the feelings are overwhelmingly painful.
It’s important to know that grief is a very unique experience and what you are feeling is normal for you, no feelings are right or wrong, they just are.
Trying to avoid feeling sadness, loss and emptiness only prolongs the grieving process. If left unresolved grief can lead to deeper routed emotions such as depression and anxiety.
Let’s look at your grief:
• I am so sorry if you have experienced a miscarriage or pregnancy loss.
• Maybe you are still remembering significant dates when your baby would have been born
• Perhaps someone you loved dearly passed away and you are still grieving
• Maybe years ago you had a termination and are still grieving for that
• Maybe you grieve every month when your pregnancy test is negative
What can we do about it?
Grief is unpleasant if it drags you down, be kind to yourself and don’t force yourself to feel any particular way. Allow yourself to be vulnerable and to say “I’m sorry I cannot deal with this today.” Crying is a cathartic experience allow yourself to cry as often as you need to.
Feeling in the dark about what happened, what to expect and what your next steps should be can be debilitating and an expert can help you through this time.
Turn to your partner for support, if you have suffered a miscarriage remember that he’s mourning the loss of a baby, too, though he may show his grief in a different way. Sharing your feelings openly with each other can help to heal.
Give yourself time and look to your future.
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